Each new year brings the good intentions of productive beginnings, and the vow to stop bad habits. Resolutions. With the arrival of 2017 came countless articles and social media bemoaning the horrible year we had just come through. The common refrain was, “Thank goodness 2016 is over!” At first, I was quick to join that chorus but then I shifted my perspective, as that was not a mindset I wanted to hang on to.
Before I get to my key message I need to share some back-story. I lost my Mother in November 2015, two years shy of her 90th birthday. I held her hand and watched over her fragile body, the one that gave me life. I prayed for more time despite the fact that I was blessed to have her in my life for so long. We are told, “No regrets”. So hard to do. So hard not to rewind our lives wishing what could have been. To go that route, I knew was futile and damaging.
So I shifted perspective.
I got a pad a paper and started to make a list all the special moments and milestones my mother and I shared. Quickly the list filled a page, then a second. I was amazed. I was comforted. I was grateful. My tears turned to smiles.
The loss, the disappointments, the shortcomings dwell in our minds. But if you started a personal list of joyful moments, achievements you may just be amazed and grateful. Sometimes we just have to see it on paper.
So I have started to a practice of writing down the positive events and moments that touch my life and keep the notes in a large Mason jar. I plan to refer to these notes when I feel overwhelmed or am need of some inspiration. Our heads get full of so much stuff that sometimes our most precious memories get buried. The jar is a convenient receptacle that can be accessed immediately. You don’t have to wait until the end of the year to take stock of your life.